If you are struggling to make a decision, know that you are not alone. Numerous people across the globe feel as though they are standing in the middle of a roundabout, unsure of which way to go. The more they think about which step to take next, the more insecure they feel.
We cannot predict the future, therefore it is a fallacy to think that one choice is better than another. We may be trying to avoid feeling disappointed in the future, but worrying in advance is not beneficial. Instead, it creates anxiety.
Furthermore, stalling makes us inactive, passive and we end up not making a decision at all, and not taking a single step. Not taking a step at all is sure to lead us to regret. What we’re actually doing is recalibrating imaginary outcomes that only happen in our heads. On the outside we are still not doing anything.
If you struggle to make a decision, here are some helpful tips (start small):
Let’s say you’re at a store and cannot decide which shampoo to get. Give yourself a time limit by which you must make a choice. Let’s say you pick one that smells nice, but in the end it makes your hair feel more dry.
Instead of feeling regretful each time you wash your hair, focus on the wonderful smell which was the main reason you made your choice. You placed your faith in the quality of the product, but it didn’t deliver. This was out of your hands. If you had more time, you could have done research, but even that would not have been conclusive – as some reviews could be fake or untrue, not to mention that everyone’s hair is different.
If the circumstances allow it, you can discard that bottle of shampoo and buy the other one. But do not dwell on the situation. Do not feel frustrated. Often times people are indecisive because they fear making a mistake. But, life is a series of mistakes. That’s how we learn – by trial and error. Experimentation, after all, is basis of innovation and progress.
We all like to win. Sometimes we do. Sometimes we don’t. Life is comprised of both. It’s our response to failure that determines the quality of our life. If fear of making a mistake is preventing you from living and enjoying life, please reach out to a mental health professional who will be able to aid you in developing tools to overcome the current situation. Additional resources can be found here.
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